My 96 Year Old Mother is Now in the Terrible 2's

By ahnydah71

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I understand that mom is unable to control her actions and I try to control my reactions but mother is in the terrible 2's. Everything is "NO" and I have had to use the skills that I used raising my 5 children. You learn to overlook the constant "No". I will not eat! I will not exercise! I will not bathe! I will not do anything but sit and you can't tell me what to do!

I pray constantly asking God to help me remember and be compassionate as I watch mother dwindle away. Besides Alzheimer's mother is completely healthy, always wanted to live to be 100 and so I believe she will. I am constantly focused on her care, even when others are caring for her and I'm unclear if I will out live her. Alzheimer's feels like a family curse. Thanks for listening.

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elizabethsexton_hu Community Admin
Thank you for sharing your story. Does your mother live with you? Caregiving is a full time job. I hope that you are able to take some time for yourself too. Caregiver burnout is real. Our team of advocates (current and former caregivers) are here for you. Let us know if you have any questions or if we can support you in any way. Warmly, Elizabeth
Shannon Simcox Contributor
Thanks for sharing your story with us <inline-mention user-id="2377193" username="ahnydah71"/> . It sounds like you're handling the terrible 2's as best you can. As with anything, this stage is only temporary. Best of luck and keep coming back!
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Lovemom Member
Thank you all for sharing your stories!My mom is 85,with alzheimers disease,it breaks my heart to see my mom so frustrated,I would give anything to have her back!I know that is just wishful thinking!!!
1. Kristin Martin Moderator & Contributor
 @Lovemom, I'm sorry to hear that your mom is 85 and has Alzheimer's disease. It is definitely a challenging and very heartbreaking journey. We all wish for our loved ones back to the way that we knew them. Knowing you are going through all of this just breaks my heart. Please know that you are not alone. You are surrounded by members who have all been touched by this awful disease. We care and are here for you. Blessings and Peace, Kristin Martin, Community Moderator 
2. elizabethsexton_hu Community Admin
 <inline-mention username="Lovemom" user-id="4168932"/> we're here for you. Does your mom live with you? Here's our resource finder page - there might be some organizations in your area offering assistance: <a href='https://alzheimersdisease.net/answers/resources' target='_blank'>https://alzheimersdisease.net/answers/resources</a>. Let us know if we can support you in any way or answer any questions. Hope our advocates' content help you as you navigate this caregiving journey <3 Warmly, Elizabeth (AlzheimersDisease.net team member)