A Girlfriend and Caregiver to Someone with Alzheimer's

I was a girlfriend and caregiver for someone with Alzheimer’s. He was diagnosed five years ago. He passed away in August 2019. He was fighting aggressive cancer, so his Alzheimer’s came fast and hard. At the end, he was in hospice. I miss him terribly, but a blessing to be in heaven free of everything. I guess my question is, it’s almost like he was putting a puzzle together so I could connect the pieces.

The agressiveness

His last week, he became a man I did not recognize. He became violently mean, had no clue it was me, he was fighting with, and most of this was every night when the sun went down. Has anyone else experienced this? Because I’m so broken up with what he was fighting with, and it wasn’t me, but it was a family member.

He had lost his mind, but somewhere deep, things came out. It became that I took this abuse on me badly, and I let him because I wanted him to die with everything released. He died with peace because I let him release everything. I knew it was a matter of time when he would leave. The hospice nurse came to access everything, and he did go to the hospital, I told him I love him to the moon and back. After I cleaned myself up from several bruises, I went to the hospital.

Dying from Alzheimer's

He passed two days later and never woke up. I have lost a husband to cancer, a son in a car accident, and now Jack, who I adored and loved so much. He made and proved I can be happy again. I have to say Alzheimer’s is the worst death ever. So make sure you find you're saying that makes you connect. Now, my mom is still alive, and I’m taking care of her, who battles dementia. I’m very thankful that she is always loving and not mean in any way. I don’t think I could handle it again to have the mind go, and the mean-ness which took the toll of me. Has anyone else experienced this?

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