I am 83 and my husband 87 with beginning alzheimers. Maintaining our home and grounds is too much for me. I have applied at a senior citizen apartment for an apartment for us. Trying to discuss this with my husband is futile and he becomes very upset. He is used to making all the decisions. I don't know how to handle the situation when an available apt becomes available as I do not want to lose out on the opportunity to down size. He does not want to move from our home. I understand change is difficult for people going through dementia/alzheimers. Please - I would like some help on this topic.