Impossible to cope
We have been married for over 40 years. My husband is 78 I am 67. A lot of effort and acceptance from my part has been the reason for our having been together this long. It was always forgive, forget and move on. Now
my husband has been diagnosed with alzheimers and I find it very hard if not impossible to deal with. He has sundown syndrome which scares me, drinks too much which he has always done, mumbles to himself in the evening. My physical health is not the best and stress is not doing me any good. My only way out as my husband puts it "you know where the front door is". I am starting to feel that my only option is to indeed walk out the front door but to have to leave my home of 30 years
, I'm sending you lots of (((hugs))), love, light, and strength. I see you. I understand that you feel like everything that you've worked for will be lost, and that indeed is hard.
Walking the Alzheimer's road with someone is such a difficult journey, and mutual love and respect do help to make it a bit easier. But I'm not hearing from your post that you are experiencing reciprocity.
Have you consulted a lawyer? If there are no funds available to you to do so, you can try contacting your local legal aid society for help in navigating this part of the journey, and ensuring that you have a return on your investment into your marriage.
Warmly,
Donna (team member)
