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My friend is distressed and suffering

I have a dear friend living in assisted living. When I visit her she just cries and cries because she doesn't understand why she's there. Even though her family visits and they write their visits down on a visible calendar for her, she still believes nobody visits. She can't understand why her daughter doesn't come get her. My friend is suffering emotionally and it's so painful to watch. Isn't there some way she can be helped or will her remaining years be fraught with such sadness and tears? Is there a medication that will help her to not feel so distraught?

  1. Hi (love your name!), yes, there are medications that can help with agitation and anxiety. If you don't have access to her doctor, you can speak with the charge nurse of the floor at her facility, and ask if the staff has noted this behavior. You could also bring it up to her medical POA. I hope that helps. - Warmly, Donna (team member)

    1. Best to you has you navigate this with her family. Scott Team member

    2. , you're most welcome <3 - We're always here if you need to talk. - Warmly, Donna (team member)

  2. It’s so sweet that you go visit. It must be traumatizing to you, as well. I’m sure it means so much to her and her family. So many friends seem to fall off the face of earth. It could be a painful conversation to have with her daughter, but she must feel terrible, too. She might appreciate the support in doing what’s best for her mom and finding a solution. Blessings, Kathy M team member.

    1. Thank you so much for your reply and affirming that it is hard to watch. I will talk to her daughter.

      1. and for your friend! all concerned! Kathy

      2. thank you for asking. I did send her daughter a long text message but she hasn't responded to date. I will be visiting my friend next week. I sure hope she's received some help.
        I'll let you know! Warmest regards, Di

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