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Severe Alzheimer’s and Alcoholism

My Mom has both these diseases and I struggle with anxiety and Bipolar 1, so you can imagine how cruddy this is for me at the moment. I’m burned out, exhausted and frustrated because I feel guilty about my own mental health and worry about her all of the time. Is there anyone out there that has the same struggles that I have? I feel alone and haven’t a clue what to do. She is tearing my marriage apart!

  1. I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this. Caregiving is hard, and especially hard while also dealing with your own mental health. You cannot care for someone else well if you are not cared for yourself. Do you have help with caregiving? Have you thought about assisted living/ memory care facilities for your mom? Is your mom still actively drinking? Here for you <3 Sending hugs. Elizabeth (AlzheimersDisease.net team member)

    1. , I'm reaching out to see how you are doing today. I'm sorry to hear about everything you are dealing with. It is not easy to care for a loved one with Alzheimer's disease and then have to care for your own health needs too. Please do not feel guilty about taking care of yourself. That is so important. You need to care for you first before you can pour into someone else. Make sure your health is okay and then you can take care of your mom. Please know that you are not alone. There are people in this community facing similar situations. We care and are here for you. Blessings and Peace, Kristin Martin, Community Moderator

      1. Hi , I understand how stressful things can be with so much on your plate. Have you gathered a support team around you and your mother? How are you doing today? - Warmly, Donna (Team Member)

        1. thank you for your kind words! Yes I had my husband and daughter supporting me through everything. Unfortunately, Mom passed away on New Year’s Day 3 1/2 years ago. She’s at peace now with my Dad in heaven.

        2. , I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending (((hugs))), love and light. I am glad that you had some good support. It is a difficult journey.

          I'm hoping you are doing well, and I am glad you are still with us! We'd love to hear some of your experiences that might help other members. - Warmly, Donna (Team Member)

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