My Loving Mom

By rabbitguru

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My mom is in the memory ward at an assisted living facility. She is in the early moderate stage. Mom has a problem with recalling things, like when Dad died, at times forgetting why she is in the memory ward, forgetting that I called her, and not remembering what she ate.

I can still hold a conversation with her, but dread the day when she will get worse. I have not seen her over a year because of the stupid virus. I worry that when I get to see her she will be worse. I don't think I will be able to handle seeing her with the effects of late stage.

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elizabethsexton_hu Community Admin
Thank you for sharing your story <3. I'm so sorry that you aren't able to see your mom right now. Are you able to video chat? Does the staff at the assisted living facility update you on her health regularly? Keep sharing. We're here for you. Our advocates (current and former caregivers) are all here for you. Warmly, Elizabeth
1. rabbitguru Member
 Thanks for your reply. The assisted living place calls my sister about my mother's health. She has power of attorney and only lives 5 minutes away, while I'm 2 hours away. I don't know how to video chat. I'm not computer savvy. Thanks again for willing to help... Lisa
rabbitguru Member
Today on the phone my mom didn't know she was in her own room. I told her to look at the pictures. She asked how I got her number if she's not in her room. My mom goes through this once a week, sometimes more. Is this a moderate decline stage? I tried to tell her it was her room but she wouldn't believe me. She had to ask an aid. How do I deal with this? 🙁
1. rabbitguru Member
 Thanks, Lauren.
2. rabbitguru Member
 Thanks, Pam...I don't think my mom is in the moderate stage yet as she only had one symptom, the confusion which doesn't happen much. I'm hoping she is still in the early stage even if advanced. Lately she has been lucid but her short term memory is bad. She forgot my sister called her about a family member's hospital visit. I had to tell her again. Other than that and being tired a lot, so far so good.
rabbitguru Member
Another symptom of my mom's Alzheimer's. She sleeps most the time. Why is that?
1. elizabethsexton_hu Community Admin
 <inline-mention username="rabbitguru" user-id="2375853"/> sleeping a lot is a common symptom of Alzheimer's. Does your mom have a hard time sleeping at night? Or just sleeps a lot in general? Alzheimer's can throw your body's internal clock off. A sun lamp or sitting near a window can help with this. It can become an issue if the person ends up sleeping during the day and not at night. But if your mom is able to also sleep at night, it isn't a bad thing. Have you talked to her doctor about this? Warmly, Elizabeth
rabbitguru Member
Well she sleeps most the time with a few nights of insomnia. My sister, who has the power of attorney and deals with the doctors, does not think she is sleeping too much. Debating with her is like being in a 1 sided discussion. She always thinks she is right. She gives excuses like my mom isn't interested in the phone sometimes or is in another room. My sister always thinks positive. It's like I have no say in the matter. But thanks for your input. Also my mom admits.she sleeps too much.o_O
1. elizabethsexton_hu Community Admin
 <inline-mention username="rabbitguru" user-id="2375853"/> family relationships are definitely hard while you are caregiving for a loved one. Don't forget to take care of yourself <3 - Elizabeth
rabbitguru Member
Well my mom has declined to a late stage where she was moderate only 2 months ago. She did fall down and lacerated her head which required 8 staples. I think it might be the reason for her recent decline to later stages. She now has to use a wheelchair, can't feed herself. Or use the toilet. She is sleeping more. My mom can only make short sentences. Sometimes you can't understand her. And she goes into trance like states at times. I'm depressed over all these changes and worry her time may be up soon.🙁