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Coping

My mum has alzheimer's, l have looked after her for 4 years. 3 weeks ago she had a nasty fall (one of many )ended up in A&E , social workers assess her , for her safety they have put her in a home .some days she is lovely and some not so nice. She has said she hates me , go away , your free now , stolen money .l see her every day but everytine time I leave l get myself in a state ( crying ) l don't know what to do , plz advice needed. Thank you Maria

  1. , thank you for being here with our community. I am sorry things are hard, and you feel sad. I recall a mix of emotions as I cared for my father. Please be reminded that your mother loves you and does not hate you. It is the disease that has her saying these words, along with the mood swings. Do you have support from family and a trusted friend to talk with, as this might help you process your feelings? During my stressful and emotional times, I used to implement deep breathing exercises to help me, and opening up about my feelings with a support group was helpful. I hope your mother is recovering well from her fall, and I am glad to learn she has you and the support she needs. I want to share a piece with you by our editorial team that shares insight into the good, the bad, and the ugly of Alzheimer's. https://alzheimersdisease.net/living/realizations. Sending along a hug and comfort. Our community is always here, so please join us anytime. Warmly, Nancy Team Member

    1. Thank you for your kind words.

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