Good days and bad days
I have learned if my husband is having a string of good days, I need to prepare for a string of bad days. The better the good time be prepared for a worse bad time. One of the bad times may be his last. We know that time is coming. Enjoy the good times and remembering them. Don't dwell on the bad times. Things change.
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so true! Thanks for sharing. Enjoy each and every second and keep those memories close. Jill (Team Member) when I was first diagnosed, I studied doctor assisted suicide. The problem is there’s only a few states that allow it and one of the requirements is you have to expect expect death within six months the problem with Alzheimer’s is only six months you might get six years and nobody takes into account quality of life. I simply don’t see a good ending in all of this. I admire all of you who are taking care of someone it can’t be easy, but I don’t wanna be taken care of. Is that so odd I can understand that and I can't even image how it must feel to live with alzheimer's. I can only speak as someone who watches the caretakers take care of their loved one. There are good days and they are so truly special. Do you have family or friends that are there to support you? Jill (Team Member)
My son sees his Dad when his work doesn't take him out of town. So he gives me two and sometimes 3 days a week a break to do my shopping or me stuff. That's a big help. While
my husband was still at home I didn't have time to even keep the apartment clean all the time.
My husband wants someone to visit daily. If no sees him, he gets worried and gives the help a hard time. He won't be with us forever and I want to be with him as much as possible. We have been married for 69 years., 69 years is amazing in these trying times! I'm so glad to hear that you have a good support system. Do you have a 'schedule' for seeing your husband? Do his friends or church family visit as well? - Warmly, Donna (Team Member)
Thankyou for sharing this! That's tough but there is something really powerful savouring the good days and the memories that we create with them. Strength to you and may your days be filled with more precious moments.
Most of his friends are gone. He has Communion brought to him on Communion Sunday. He gets cards from church. Hospice provides weekly bathing, a lady that plays the guitar and sings and a nurse that sees him several times a week. He also has monthly care from a chaplain, social worker and a massage. He sees people on a regular basis. I seem to be his security blanket.
that is great that he has so much support from his religious and medical community and the support of a loving spouse. Jill (Team Member) , that's understandable, and really lovely <3 You've been together so long. I'm glad that he has other visitors. It gives him social interaction, and ot gives you peace of mind that he is not alone, while also giving you a little time to do the things you need to do. Thank you for sharing! - Warmly, Donna (Team Member)
